Who has an Invisibility Cloak?

This is an article I wrote on the 3rd December 2018. I am not going to change it in any way (apart from updating my contact details).

My intention being that I will soon share my 2024 perspective.

Do you ever feel invisible? Perhaps you behave as if you are.  Maybe it's like standing with your back against the wall, just hoping someone will notice you? Offer a kind word, help you out in some way.

This year more than ever I have been working on my Invisibility Cloak Syndrome.  Its not been easy and I am far from finished but I thought I would share a few of my reflections with you in case they resonate.

4 things to consider:-

• Stay in the Picture - There is a difference to when I show up for you to when I show up for Me.  Relate this to your children or a much loved pet.  I bet you would do anything for them.  Really show up, attend and look after them.  Stand up for them in a way that you have never done for yourself.  Do you give yourself that same attention?  Do you treat yourself with the same mutuality?  I haven't in the past.  It is something I must consciously choose to do.  I now ask myself "Who is this really for?"  "Does this fit for me?"  -  these questions have helped slow down my automatic response to be of service to others even if it puts me 2nd or worse case - when I remove myself from the picture.  Staying in the Picture has not been easy and it is quite a change for those closest to me. I have said "No" more this year than any of my other 45 years.  I am choosing to stand up for Me, in the same way as I would my children.  I deserve it - to have the same love for myself as I do for them - not there yet though.

• Mind Reading - I am so tuned into others, their needs and wants.  I can sense what is important or required. S ometimes I can be so attuned I can provide something before it is even asked for.  The problem is I don't always experience it back again.  I find myself wishing that people were mind readers.  Why?  It would save me the embarrassment and vulnerability of asking for something I need.  Wouldn't it be easier if they just knew - like I do?  Most people don't.  It can hurt me.  Truth is though - I'm not a mind reader either.  I am an attentive, intuitive and sensitive being.   I notice things and ask about them. It is what makes me a great coach. Hoping for mind reading is a trick - there is no escape from asking for what I need or want.

• Expressing Needs and Wants - I have lived a life of it being about everyone else.  It means people think I am "nice" and "lovely".  I am so much more than that. "I want things too and its not all about you." -  shouts this emerging part. Its arrived with anger to protect my vulnerability. "Notice me" - it yells. None of these birthing screams are audible.  They swirl in my head and body. An Activated Dragon fighting for freedom.  Preferring the fight most days because to experience the sadness of being hidden away is more painful.  In order to achieve my freedom I am learning to handle both the sadness and the anger.

• I Do Matter - I matter and so do you.  I am on this planet to do powerful work.  To share my experience with those who are drawn to work with me. It is my challenges that enable me to help you with yours.  I am honestly imperfect.  I do not need to be complete to do marvellous and heartfelt work. I am here now. Just as I am.  I do matter.  You can only find me though if I throw off my cloak of invisibility and say to you.   "Here I am."

Reflective Enquiry:-

Let me know what this moves in you. Your experience may be totally different. That is OK.

How do you keep yourself in the picture?

Do you have Mind Reading qualities?

What is your experience of expressing your needs and wants?

Do you believe that you matter?

Discovery  ~  Growth  ~  Freedom

Illuminate

Point of Light